Although I am talking about a different theory that explains the same phenomena as Twin Souls; Mirror Spirits, I wanted to address those of you who have come to see that your relationship with your Twin Flame (first/currently strongest Mirror Spirit) isn’t going to develop in a way that you want it to, and has come to a halt. This is not to say that your Twin Flame (Mirror Spirit) was not real, and it certainly isn’t about to trivialise what you are going through right now. Although I don’t think any Twin Flame / Mirror Spirit relationship ever comes truly to an end, no matter how much we want it to (at least not without a serious amount of soul searching and self-discovery) it is good for the separation period to simply let go. Letting go is essential to show trust that the bond is real to start with. If you don’t dare to let go of someone, doesn’t that say a great deal about your faith in you being their true love? And, on the other hand, if this isn’t your true Mirror Spirit (Twin Flame) then why would you want to hang onto them?
Any Mirror Spirit (Twin Soul) relationship, full, partial or Mirage, is extremely intense, and I must tell you that you will never forget this person, and you will never get over them in the strictest sense of the word, but you can learn to live with separation with nostalgic appreciation and unconditional love rather than ache for their return. You must first let go of the idea that you will one day stop loving them, because that won’t happen, you will always love them, getting over someone doesn’t mean you have to cast them out of your heart like a dirty rag, quite the opposite. You have to store them in your heart like the treasure they are… But not bolt the doors. This is not the end of the line for you, and you must always consider this relationship as your benchmark. Now, this is where I need you to gather up your courage as we are about to move onto a new spiritual theory, and it maybe a lot to take in right now.
The Twin Flame theory states that there is only one such bond created for each individual. However, there is a curious part about the Twin Flame theory, namely the existence of “near twins”, “false twins” and “karmic soul mates”. These are attempts to explain that one person can in fact fall hard for more than one person during one life time, but because the theory explains the existence of Twin Flames as “split souls” they have to explain the existence of other Twin Flame bonds as “false” or “near”. There is no other options in the confinements of this theory, even if reality would be different to it. In reality, we all come in all different shapes and sizes. We are all slightly different to each other – that is the beauty of the Universe. We need a sample of everything, and so it is, that some are slightly different to us and some are massively different to us, and everything in between. It’s the everything in between that creates confusion – the closer to our kind the person gets, the harder it is to say whether they are a full Mirror or a partial one or a potential Mirror. Both full and potential Mirrors are worth pursuing, a partial Mirror will always remain partial. (See a chart to understand the difference between different bonds.) As each of us is different, so is the friendships and relationship types that we need to be happy. In very short; some of us are straight, some are gay, some are bi and some are polygamous while some are monogamous heterosexuals. Now you need to know which of these is Your Thing.
The danger for you lies in giving up hope and marrying someone you really shouldn’t marry just because you believe there can’t be another one as strong as your Twin Flame – and many of you don’t even want there to be another. If you truly want to honour your current bond, do that, but there is no reason to give up and “marry a soul mate” because your Twin Flame is gone. (Men don’t often carry around this same belief, but believe they can find a new bond – some will, and that they are not good enough for a woman that they truly want, and they accept it as a fact of life that all men want the same woman – and they see their Mirror to be one that everyone wants. They have lifetimes experience of letting the best man win.) Although marrying someone not quite so special is the usual course of events with Twin Flames, it doesn’t mean that this is inevitable. As far as other relationships go, they are quite good to have, simply avoid making a permanent commitment to someone you don’t love as much as your first Mirror Spirit, because you risk losing another one in the process.
Letting go and learning to appreciate the love that you had can only be achieved if you have some level of hope that there could be another one, or that this one wasn’t quite it. If you believe that you can never love another the same way than them, it will block out all your ability to love again. This is a guaranteed way to make ‘just one for each’ -theory come true. I have been there myself, and I regret that. You will not fall in love with someone that wasn’t meant to be, so you can put down your guard and try – you will know the second you meet them whether there is a chance or not, so you don’t have to go down the road of trying further than that.
Sometimes our souls force separation only so that you would find the one you love even more, or find out something else about yourself. Had my “Twin Flame” loved me the way that I wanted him to, I don’t know if I’d ever found out that there was more than one for me. And I will always love him, more than you can realise, but I know now there are others equal to him – for me. Letting go of the need to love a specific individual will help you along. About 6 months before I was led to my other Mirrors, I decided I wanted to find passionate love, something akin to Twin Flames but knowing there could only be one true Twin, some diminished form of it. That’s when the hypnosis of “just one” started to unravel… Only a wish to experience passion again, without limiting it to one specific person.
The point of this post is to give you hope for the future. Even if you don’t believe this when someone tells you “you’ll find someone else”, take it from someone who has got a Twin Flame… Or two. I too have gone through the “oh he’s a near twin” to “my Twin Flame is a runner” to… “Oh… There’s more?” Believe me it wasn’t going to sink in easily that there was more than one for me. It sounded like an insult toward my strongest Mirror, but now I hang my head in shame for not realising that my “near twin” was really a Full Mirror in a weakened state; his life experience had turned him suspicious of people and insecure about himself, hiding the man he really was… Where as to another Mirror I was in a weakened state and he wouldn’t know me. In case you have a “Near Twin”, although there is such a thing as a near twin, there’s also a possibility they are the same. Please take another look, not to get them back, either but to see if it is possible that you have more than one “Twin”.
I do have to make one more point about multiple Mirror Spirits; they are not an “alternative solution” to each other. They cannot replace each other, nor can they be forgotten (very easily anyway, depending on how you treat each other), as these bonds grow, you will very likely find a mutual bond as a group. Another alternative is that you will never quite seem to be able to settle down – but this may be a transition phase to the end “goal”. I point this out because it may seem like having more than one Twin Flame -type of bond would be an easy way out but it is not… Far from it. There’s no “you’ll just pick another one” in this theory either, and the more bonds you create, the more you have to have to offer – the more you need to be and to grow to be enough.
|ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCT over any advice given on this site or any other source. These posts are here only to give you insight and ideas to solve the puzzle of your life, but they do not give you complete answers and every person and situation is unique. If you know in your gut that your relationship is different than what I write about, listen to your gut first, yea?|